happy 2011!

his year has flown by! I can't believe how far I've come :)

Anyway, a new year is a good time to make a new start - but be careful of trying to change too much in one go! If you decide to recover, give up smoking and learn to drive all at once, you may well end up failing.

For me, my resolution is keep thinking and acting positively during 2011. Sometimes that in its self can be hard enough.

What's your resolution? is it realistic? achievable?

Here's to a happy, HEALTHY new year to everyone who reads this or visits www.anabites.webs.com

Love and peace,
Bella xx

my website!

I have started a sort of recovery website / not triggering website.

Please, come  join us. It's small, but I hope it will be very supportive and welcoming :)

http://anabites.webs.com/

for prettythin

Dear James,

    I doubt very much that I will get a response from you. I never have before, and I am about to perform a massive U turn with my opinion of this site.

   I am in a position where I have used PT both through my ED and during my recovery. I can now, with insight and a clear head say that PT certainly made my ED worse.

  Now, from this, I would suggest that PT encourages ED's. Which, in turn would make it "pro ana".

  I spent a huge amount of time in the forums, and despite the no tip rule, there are diets, messages of "support" (Basically saying "Keep strong, Don't eat") and very unwell people searching fro a little attention.

  This is a cocktail for "creepers" as you call them.

I have to say, that I attended some safeguarding training for my job. Prettythin was discussed. Yes, PT was flashed on a screen and described as "a massive concern."

Why? Because it attracts paedophiles and encourages starvation. No matter what your disclaimer says.

  I need to say this: Young women suffering from an ed are not in a place where they can make good judgements. I know, I've been there.

An ED makes us want to believe what we see. PT feels sake as well, making it even harder to see that someone may be a 40 year old man. Many members give out facebook details, phone numbers, even on occasion addresses

What people seem to be horribly naive of is that the point of being groomed is that YOU DON'T REALISE. Do you know how easy it is to find out what school someone attends? Use facebook or PT to see what they look like?

Add to this the fact that many many members just want to feel worth something, and it is a recipe for disaster. "Creepers" Know what to look for. They search for vulnerabilities and exploit them.

It horrifies me that when I have brought this up on PT, I have been met with responses such as "Oh, I know I'm not talking to Paedos." or "I only give my phone number to people  I've got to know,"

There is a terrifying lack of awareness on here, and I feel you have a responsibility to do something about that.

You are quite simply not doing enough. PT needs an age restriction, needs moderators online 24/7. Needs an instant "panic button"

Above all else, PT members need it drummed into them that This place is quite simply NOT SAFE. Remember that it is well known enough to be topic for conversation at a safeguarding course.

You know, I'm going to post this on the forums too. as I doubt you will even aknowledge it.

Yours,

Bella

LOL, try avoiding alcohol on Christmas day when you are keeping the fact you are pregnant secret (just 3 more weeks until we can tell our families :) )

You know, as an anorexic I've always put a great deal of stress around Christmas. All the food and other people cooking for you and the unknown calories and the pressure to "Not ruin another Christmas." I have to admit that I have been nervous about it, as I keep saying, Recovery isn't simple, Ana tends to keep popping up to say hi.

I had a little blip on Christmas eve. I decided I didn't need  to eat yesterday as I would eat so much today. I hated it, really. I felt like I was letting myself down so much, and so I shared it with my family and they were great. We all ate soup for lunch and then steak and salad for dinner last night. As a price for this, they asked me to eat a mince pie with a teaspoon of cream on top. It was fine, and a good compromise to make. Low stress in a weak moment, but by no means giving in.

Remember that. It's ok to have a bad day. What's important is the ability to compromise, and push yourself as far as you are comfortable with.

My Mum has a postcard on the fridge door. It says. "Without challenge, there can be no achievement."

Take that as you will, I use it as a recovery mantra.

Merry Christmas. xxx

Christmas and snow...

...Gets in the way of everything!!

The last week has been super crazy - I actually got snowed in lol. Took advantage of the snow and went sledging  (I was careful!) and made a frankly awesome snowman :)

   I have to admit that I am suffering a little guilt right now. Its at times like Christmas when my routine gets thrown out and Ana gets an opportunity to try and talk me into starvation again.

"God, I can't believe you ate a mince pie earlier WITH CREAM, and now you're out for your work Christmas meal EATING A FULL ROAST followed by ICE CREAM. Fat bitch."

It's such a struggle to ignore those sort of thoughts, and avoid the panic. I've done ok so far by making my meals super healthy and allowing for extra treats in between. (A dangerous game in its self as "healthy" easily becomes "restrict" when not monitored.) But I would be lying if I claimed I was as comfortable with Christmas as I would like to be.

Anyway - I'm trying to remember that over eating in December is normal and inevitable! Everyone does it, and those of us with ED's needn't  beat ourselves up for acting like the rest of the human race around food every now and again.
 Keep strong, keep focused. xx

So... the Pro ana debate...

Some of you may have read my post on PT about the safeguarding training I attended yesterday. And the fact that said site was flashed up on the screen and described as somewhere the police are keeping an eye on and are concerned about due to peadophiles.

   Well, I decided I could no longer stay on PT, what with my work with vulnerable people. But it's been bothering me all day.

Pro ana /' mia sites are somewhere a lot of people go to feel "normal" or included, somewhere to open up.

What does a paedophile want? Someone who is:
1. Under age
2. Vulnerable
3. Desperate for someone to love / like/ approve of them

Therefore, somewhere like PT and the many others out there are the perfect hunting ground for these people.

In the past I have always defended pro ana, but I never considered how clever a paedophile is at manipulating girls to meet them or, more commonly, send them inappropriate photos of themselves.

Quite frankly, this scares me, and I'm beginning to wonder if the cons of a support forum like PT outweigh the pros.

Any comments? I may continue this topic tomorrow, when I have more time.

Just...feelin' Christmassy :)

Ahhh, Christmas. The calories, the enforced time with family, the disappointing presents, the rubbish TV. How I HATED it last year.
The whole "How many calories should I allow myself for Christmas?" thing. Being genuinely terrified that one day was going to make me fat overnight. The fear of once I start eating, I won't be able to stop, the burning question "HOW MANY CALORIES IN A CHRISTMAS DINNER?"

Well this year I'm looking forward to it all. I'm going to eat the chocolates I get in my stocking and I'm not going to run for an hour after lunch and take a handful of laxatives to try and burn off the calories.

It's just one day out of 365, and it WON'T make me, or anyone else, fat. xx